27 August 2012

A Public Service Announcement -- Part VII


[The Announcement continues with Part VII below:]

7.) Hey Princess: what about Prince Charming and Mr Right?

So many women try to paint themselves as the princess looking for her Prince Charming—a meme that is ripped straight out of Cinderella*. It’s no surprise this is the case given that society (through the Walt Disney Company) has pasted this entire “you’re a princess” meme on millions of girls and women for the past 40 years.

The truth is: unless you happen to be a close blood relative of a currently-reigning royal house (such as those of Britain, Norway, Sweden, and the Netherlands) or are currently married to a high-ranking male member of such a royal house, you are NOT a princess. Let that sink in for a moment as I repeat it again:

YOU ARE NOT A PRINCESS, MUCH LESS A QUEEN OR A GODDESS.

No amount of denial or believing is going to change that fact. Most likely, you are a middle-class American woman—and there are millions of other women just like you. And for such women, the “perfect man” (if there even is such a thing) is NOT going to just all of a sudden drop on your lap. The onus is thus on you to differentiate yourself to the seas of potential partners out there and (as I’ve said in the last section) choose your suitors carefully.

Prince Charming and Mr Right are two ideas that do not exist except in your head. One, every person (man AND woman alike) has their own individual concepts of what exactly constitutes “the perfect match” and it stands to reason that no two individual visions of said “perfect match” are going to exactly be alike. The entire concept is thus inherently subjective by its nature. Yes, the consumption of fairy-tales, bombarded advertising, and poorly-written “romance” novels often have a rather unhealthy influence as to what we not only want our partners to look and act like, but ourselves as well.

I have said this time and time before, and I’ll say it again: life does NOT follow out like Twilight or 50 Shades of Grey—there IS a reason why such novels are classified as “fiction.” It would help to fully separate fantasy from reality, as more often than not, the people around you in real life will never act in any way that even remotely resembles the characters from your favourite novels and movies.

Yes, that dream guy that you picture in your head will inevitably do things that drive you crazy, and ironically, that would by definition mean he’s not perfect. He may belch, fart, drink a ton of beer on Sunday while watching the big game, and scratch his nuts. You’re going to do things that absolutely get on his nerves as well. It’s called “being a human” and it would bode well for everyone if people just accepted that fundamental fact of life.

So, do us a favour: spare us the “I’m looking for my prince” bullshit, okay? Thanks.


*I am of course referring to the Disney version here, though I suggest you read the version put out by the Brothers Grimm from the 19th Century. The outcomes and intended lessons to be gained from the fables are quite different. 

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