As some of you may recall from Part III of The Announcement, I touched upon the metaphor of the marketplace and people having relative values, particularly those concerned with sexual desire and worthiness for marriage (within, of course, the heterosexual framework). Upon further consideration, I’ve decided it would be worth the time to go into detail as to what can drop these values, as so many people are doing so.
Like my twelve-part “The Announcement” series, my primary target is once again the female masses who generally take to online dating sites and are otherwise involved in the current “dating game” as seen in the present-day United States. Further, lest I be accused of sexism and “trying to bash women,” I do wish to point out that a separate sub-series on this topic addressed to the men is in the works as they are not innocent either.
A given man has some value given to him by women around him that indicates where he falls in the metaphorical “pecking order.” Likewise, any given woman has some relative value that is similarly given to her by men. These values, as you may recall, largely but not fully revolve around sexual appeal (both real and perceived). However, there are other factors that do play into a broader equation. For many men, another key variable is worthiness of a relationship—that is, what are the realistic and feasible prospects that a relationship with a given woman is going to endure into the long-term (such as marriage until natural death)?
Moreover, is such a relationship and the benefits said relationship affords worth the risks inherent with developing and maintaining it? Most any guy is certainly willing to issue forth with what he earnestly believes is a reasonable quantum of commitment given the particular circumstances. And, as the rest of “The Announcement” series deduces, a lot of women in today’s society have high expectations and yet aren’t demonstrating that they are quality relationship material despite demanding it from the men.
The result is a strange imbalance in the long-term (or marital) marketplace.
Hence, the following several parts will focus on each of several common actions and/or traits that have an adverse effect on lowering their marital market values (MMVs)--and thus their long-term relationship prospects. Some of them vary on their effects on sexual market values (SMVs), which generally tend to govern decisions regarding short-term relationships and casual "hookups." Either way, the effects are that which are deleterious if you are seriously and earnestly trying to find a “decent” man to have a long-term relationship with.
Let’s start with a simple, yet obvious one:
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