“You are perfect except for your weight. We should be friends, I think we would get along really well and have similar tastes/interests.”
ps. is this a case of that word “Solipsism”? My feelings reading her pre-emptive rejection of him was simply her being 100% clueless and simply unable to comprehend what it would be like as the man on the other side of the monitor reading those words.
A week ago I was talking to a girl 22 set who is going to get married with a guy in her age in a couple of years. She’s been overweight in the past and developed anorexia. Now she is just a little chubby.
She was wearing high heels and I teased her for being “so” tall. She told me that even on high heels his boyfriend was taller than her. We had this conversation:
-What happens if he was shorter?
-Well, I’d have never dated him-Just because of his height?-Yes, it doesn’t look good-To other people’s eyes?-Exactly-Wow, you are suuuuuch a superficial girl-Now you made me feel bad
Our height issues must be canceled out with their weight issues shameless
I guess I’m not seeing what the real issue is here. Yes, it was a bit crass in the delivery, but it’s not close to true nuclear rejections, really. It wasn’t sarcastic or mean, just thoughtless. Yes, he can’t change his height, but accepting the limitations of that is a part of the deal. Height for many women (most of them) is an absolute deal-breaker, it is the one physical aspect that is non-negotiable for most of them. Yes, men can’t change it, but that’s life — you need to learn to work with it, and not take it personally that so many women have you completely off the screen due to something you can’t change.